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June 19th
Sunday Night
The Book of Hebrews
Subject: “The Divine Institution of Marriage”
Text: Hebrews 13:4
Intro: I would like to preface this message tonight to say that there is no experts in the field of Marriage, but the Lord and his word. When a man and a womon are joined by God it is a wonderful thing. Marriage today are coming to an end just about as fast as two people say vows.
It is not unthinkable in our day for two people to say well lets try it for awhile to see if we are suitable for each other, if we are then we will get married. I was talking to a man the other afternoon, he tells me that he is getting married in a months, I know it is wrong but we are living together.
I said to him yes it is. He informed me he was a christian and that he was a member of a Baptist church. He may be a christian but he is living wrong. Our text says GOD will judge unlawful sexual acts.
Broken homes are a tragedy when kids are involved and somtimes it is not avoidable, sometimes it happens to the best of marriages. Do not judge people so quickly of they are in a troubled marriage or even if they fail in marriage, you may be next.
I know preachers who are death on such events in the lives of people, until it happens to themn or their chidlren then it is another story. I churches that look down on divorced people as some kind of lower christain, that want happen at this church by the grace of God.
I... “ THE PRONOUCEMENT OF MARRIAGE”... “ It is honourable”.. Vs 4
The word “ honourable” means held in great esteem. God hold marriage in great esteem. I would like to say that the so-called marriages of homosexuals is no marriage at all. God has not sancitioned neither will he sanction such unions.
The Lord Jesus Christ performed his first miracle at a wedding. John 2:1-2 And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there: 2 And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.
So when Paul says that marriage is honourable in all he is not saying that it is honourable in men with men women with women. It is honourable in all legal and scriptual marriages. Virginia and I have been married for 35 ½ years and God has honored our union all these years with three children and 10 grand chidlren. What a blessing the fruit of marriage.
II... “ THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE”
For this I want us to turn to the book of Genesis and examine what happen in that first marriage performed by the Lord.
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Genesis 2
1st. That it was so man could have a help meet: vs 18-20
This help mate was so he did not have to be alone. It is not natural to live alone and to be withut a help meet. Now I know that death seperates husbands and wives and nothing can be done about that but for those whom this happens to get another help meet.
In this statement we see the reality of the LORD providing what Adam needed. He does that, he promised that and keeps it up. The LORD is well aware of your need tonight and in his own time he will provided for you what is best for you.
2nd. That God provideds Eve for him: vs 21-22
You yound people listen to me tonight marriage is so important that God has alread picked your mate and don’t you rush it, don’t fall for Satan’s trap and then you will pay the price for it. God will send them to you at the right time.
I know in the BIBLE parents on a lot of occasion because of culture and tradition pick their childrens mates. One of the most beautiful stories in the Bible along these lines was the way Isaac and Rebekah were brought together.
Genesis 24:1-4 And Abraham was old, [and] well stricken in age: and the LORD had blessed Abraham in all things. 2 And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: 3 And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: 4 But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.
3rd. Marriage was for the purpose of reproducing:
Genesis 1:27-28 So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Children are such a blessing to a home. Psalm 127:3-5 Lo, children [are] an heritage of the LORD: [and] the fruit of the womb [is his] reward. 4 As arrows [are] in the hand of a mighty man; so [are] children of the youth. 5 Happy [is] the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Oh that we would treasurer our children and our childten’s children. Such happy times as well as not so happy times when they are coming up. Oh that we would teach our children what is right and try stir them in the right ways to help them. They are so bambarded with so many false things today.
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When I think of my parents as a child I think of a man and a woman who loved me and my four sisters dearly. They provided for us, read the bible to us, prayed with us, and gave us good examples. By far the standards they set for us was much greater than most of us set for our families today. We need a return to biblical homes were there is prayer and bible reading and not so much television.
III... “ THE PROBLEMS OF MARRIAGES”
All marriages are problematic. By that I mean marriages are made up of two people with two different personailities. I know that Virginia loves me are she would have left me a long time ago, I am hard to live with at times. But it works both ways, she is likewise hard to live with.
I don’t want to deal with the problems so much tonight as I do the solution to all problems in marriages. Since no one has any problems in their marriage here tonight, ha ha. All of you don and I know it.
1st. The submission in marraige:
Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
Such a difficult task for one to perform, and yet the Bible commands it. Are you lost if you don’t, does it mean a husband can run his wife as he does a business, a slave, or other such like things, no it means what it says.
What does submit mean? According to the greek lexicon it means to yeild to ones advice and leadership. Wives do it as unto the LORD. If you find it difficult to submit to the LORD you can rest assure you will find it difficult to submitt to your husband.
When God pronuced jugement on Adam and Eve for sin, listen to what he said about submission. Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Paul further explains the role of the women to her husband in submission in church capacity: 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but [they are commanded] to be under obedience, as also saith the law. 35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
2nd. The correct way to treat the wife husbands:
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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I admitt tonight that I fell miserable on this point, any of you men know what I am talking about? I believe if we treat our wives like Christ treats the church and loves the church, what differences it would make in our marriages.
Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. This goes back to when God gave Eve to Adam, note what he says to Adam in his responsiblity to Eve:
What does loving the wife as Christ love the church mean?
(1.) I would say that it means sacrificially love her:
The verse says he loved her and gave himself for her. That is he died for her. When Eve sinned Adam had to die for her and with her. What a picture of love Christ has for us. He loves us that much. We should love our wives that much.
(2.) I would say that it means to protect her:
Christ protects us, Psalm 3:3 But thou, O LORD, [art] a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head. Psalm 5:12 For thou, LORD, wilt bless the righteous; with favour wilt thou compass him as [with] a shield.
(3.) I would say that it means to show her security:
Boy when we look at the secuirty that we have in Christ. We should readily and willingly do this for our wives. Know we cannot give them spiritual security, but we can give them that special security of life. Provide a safe home for her and the children, make sure she is not harmed in anyway possible we can.
3rd. The forgiving spirit in marriages:
Oh how we not only need to forgive one another in this church when something goes wrong, but especially in the homes. Never go to be with anger in the heart that means both with the childten and with the grandchildren and with the wife.
Forgiveness will solve a lot of problems. Listen to what the Bible says about forgiving one another.
David said:
Psalm 25:16-18 Turn thee unto me, and have mercy upon me; for I [am] desolate and afflicted. 17 The troubles of my heart are enlarged: [O] bring thou me out of my distresses. 18 Look upon mine affliction and my pain; and forgive all my sins.
Brothers and sisters think about the times we need the Lord to forgive us, which is all the time, think about the times we need to forgive one another...
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Jesus said:
Matthew 6:14-15 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Jesus said:
Matthew 18:21-22 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Colossians 3:13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also [do] ye.
We need new committment’s in our marriage tonight taht we will by the grace of God and through the word of GOD determine that we will work at our christian responsibility in our marriage to love one another, in sickness and in healt, in poverty or in wealth, tilldeath do we part.